Although you are probably thrilled at the prospect of becoming a dad, you may also be feeling rather anxious about how best to support your partner during her pregnancy and how you will cope with the new responsibilities that having a baby will bring.
Your partner’s attention is now likely to be concentrated on the growing baby and all the excitement surrounding the pregnancy will be centred around her.
If this is your first experience of pregnancy, you may be rather shocked to discover that, with her attention now elsewhere, you are feeling rather neglected.
This feeling will be increased if your partner doesn’t want to make love- some women find sex more enjoyable during pregnancy while others lose all interest in love-making until after the baby is born.
Of course, it isn’t always the women who ‘goes off’ sex – some men find their partner’s changing shape, or the fact that there is a baby inside her turns them off love-making. Be understanding if sex is no longer an option and try to find other ways of being close.
You may be concerned about how you will manage financially and take care of money matters after the baby’s born.
The loss of or reduction in your partner’s income, plus the additional expense of baby equipment can seem quite daunting, especially if your finances are already tight. Now might be a good time to start planning for how your finances will look after the baby arrives.
Extreme tiredness is a common side-effect of pregnancy and as your partner’s pregnancy progresses she is likely to tire very easily so offer practical help with shopping, housework and cooking.
Don’t let her over-tire herself, but equally don’t fuss around her too much, unless she wants you to, of course. Support her, too, if she's struggling to give up smoking and, if you haven't already done so, give up smoking yourself as smoking is bad for you, your partner and your baby.
Pregnancy can be a scary time for both of you so it's really important to be as well informed as possible, so it's a good idea for you to read Emma's Diary India and other pregnancy publications.
If possible, accompany your partner to antenatal clinics and parenting classes so that you know what to expect and don’t miss seeing your baby on screen when she goes for her scans.
If there are any concerns about the health and wellbeing of either your partner or your baby, talk to the doctors involved so that you have a clear understanding of what the problem is. This will enable you to support and reassure your partner.
If you can, arrange to have a week or two off work after the baby's born so that you can get to know your baby and look after your wife.