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Coping with crying

Coping with Crying

Tips on coping with your baby crying

Crying is the way your baby communicates his feelings and as he gets older and you become familiar with his cries you'll be able to identify the difference between them, and it won't be long before you are able to recognise what your baby needs.

Here we explain why babies cry and how to cope...

Give reassurance

Don't forget that your newborn has been used to the warmth and safety of your womb, so this new world he's now in can seem a strange and frightening place which may make him cry, especially if he is apart from you.

It's important to reassure him when he cries so that he knows that you are there for him. Even if you don't know why he's crying, the fact that you're responding to him will comfort him and help to strengthen the bond between you.

Don't ever think that your baby is being naughty or is just demanding attention when he cries – a young baby has no notion of naughtiness and if he is being demanding, it's because he needs something.

You can't spoil your baby by giving him too much love, in fact research suggests that babies whose needs are met when they are very tiny become less demanding as they get older, not more.

Why babies cry

Your baby will cry for a variety of reasons - perhaps he's hungry, feeling thirsty or tired, or uncomfortable because he's too hot, or he may have a pain.

Sometimes there will be nothing wrong and he'll be crying simply because he needs a reassuring cuddle. As you get used to the sound of his different cries you will be able to identify what your baby needs.

For example, you are likely to find there's a world of difference between a hungry cry and a sleepy one.

By the time your baby reaches six weeks of age he will probably start to sleep more at night and be more awake in the daytime. This will make it easier to identify his cries as they are likely to be more specific - for example, he is wet or dirty and needs changing, he's hungry or he's bored.

As your baby continues to grow he will start to develop other ways of communicating with you, such as by making eye contact and cooing, gurgling and smiling, so he'll cry less.

If the crying won't stop

Some babies seem to cry incessantly and this can be very wearing for their parents. It's hard to live with a baby who cries a lot and refuses to be comforted no matter what you do.

If this sounds like your baby you may need to develop some strategies to help you cope. However, you should always check to make sure that there are no signs that your baby is unwell before trying these:

  • Movement can be soothing, so try rocking your baby, pushing him in his pram or taking him out in the car.
  • He may be comforted by being held close to you, so carry him in a sling when you do your chores.
  • The sound of your voice will have a calming effect, so sing or talk gently to your baby.
  • Playing the radio, or turning on the vacuum cleaner or washing machine can be a distraction which may settle your baby.

Getting help

If your baby cries a lot and none of these crying cures settle him try not to get angry or upset with your baby.

Remember that other parents have been through the same experience and have survived. The best thing to do if you feel you can't stand the crying anymore is to put your baby in a safe place, such as his cot and go to another part of the house until you feel calmer.

Alternatively, ask your partner or a friend to give you a break. A few hours away from home, even if you just go window shopping should help you calm down and feel more able to cope.

Don’t be afraid to ask your doctor for advice. They won’t think any the less of you for being upset by your baby’s constant crying.

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