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Baby Fears

Typical first baby worries and how to face them

Never mind baby tears, it's baby fears that give most new parents sleepless nights. But while these little worries are normal and very common, they are also well within your power to overcome!

Not recognising her cries

After a few weeks you will learn to recognise your baby's crying patterns and be able to tell if she needs attention (a feed, a clean nappy or a sleep) or if she is feeling genuine discomfort through colic or something else (such as reflux).

Not only will you be able to recognise what she wants, but it's likely that if she was in a room full of crying babies you'd be able to pick her out while blindfolded!

Leaving the house with your new baby

Of course you are naturally concerned about exposing this precious little person to all sorts of nasty germs from snotty-nosed kids to over-enthusiastic family and friends who insist on holding her, but staying locked away indoors for weeks after the birth is not good for either mum or baby.

Babies are stimulated by different environments so run errands together and get out and about for a morning or afternoon walk.

You'll need to be sensible about germs and avoid crowds until baby is about three months old (especially in winter when colds and flu are common). When you are with groups of family or friends make sure everyone washes their hands thoroughly before touching the baby (don't be scared of offending anyone, they'll understand).

Explain to children that until baby is bigger and stronger they can only look and not touch.

Placing baby on her tummy

Your baby will probably be spending much of her life on her back (in bed, in her car seat or baby swing). A daily 20 minute stint on her tummy will help develop her neck and back muscles which she needs to lift her head, roll over and sit up.

If your baby cries and appears unhappy on her tummy then just get her used to it in short doses (two minutes at a time, several times a day). Tummy time can be made much more fun with an infant gym, or brightly coloured toys around her to focus on. Or simply get down on the floor alongside her.

Making noise during baby's nap time

Babies are used to an incredible amount of noise while in the womb so ordinary household noises are unlikely to waken her.

It’s difficult to actually get anything done at all if you feel you have to tiptoe around the house. Sudden loud noises like music blaring out or loud banging would probably wake most babies – not just those who appear to be over sensitive to sounds – but its best from the outset to just expect baby to sleep through general background noise of fans, vacuum cleaners, TVs and radios.

Putting baby down to sleep while she's crying

OK that's not the best scenario, but then neither is standing there endlessly rocking her while your anxiety and stress levels go through the roof.

A healthy cry is not always something you can, or need to stop. Just make sure your baby is not in distress and that all obvious needs are taken care of, then put her in her cot, leave the room and take a breather.

In some cases your baby may actually be crying because she is over-tired and she'll soon settle when left alone. If you're unlucky and your baby cries for several hours a day there could be some underlying medical reason and you should get her checked by a doctor.

Handing over the baby care

Probably most mum's deepest fear - going out and leaving someone else responsible for your baby.

Whether it's your husband, parent or closest friend it's still a worry. Of course you trust them, but will baby sense you are not near? Will something go horribly wrong? Will you come home to a messy house and a sobbing baby?

You have to bite the bullet and just do it. You can't get yourself into the situation whereby your baby will only settle with you. You have to let your partner share in the care otherwise you could end up doing everything, for many years!

Just try to relax about it all. It really doesn't matter if your partner can't colour coordinate baby's outfits, or if they are useless at putting a nappy on (they'll soon learn the benefits of doing it right). And what does it matter if the house isn't as neat as when you're in charge? Have some faith in others and grab yourself a little 'me' time.

Baby doesn't burp

It's a myth that all babies have to be winded after a feed. Some babies never burp, others burp for the whole of India!

After a night feed if your baby is sleepy just put her down to sleep. If she is a little crotchety or unsettled she could have wind, but some gentle back rubbing for a few minutes will release it.

There's no need to spend ages pacing the nursery floor, rubbing her back, waiting for a burp. It's probably not coming! Even if she burps in bed and brings up a little milk it will dribble away.

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